:: on marriage+relationships ::
i’ve said it before and i’ll say it again, it really is all about choosing your partner in a million little ways (and sometimes a few big ones!) day after day. mix in a little compromise, communication, and commitment and you’ve got a recipe for a pretty rockin’ relationship. oh and love of course, but that’s kinda a given
:: on money ::
over the past few months i’ve come to realize that money is a huge part of a marriage+relationship. after all, ever since we moved into together & switched to joint banking even our money is married!
since we have different styles when it comes to handling finances, it was important for us to find a way to combine these in a way that would make us both happy and would set us up for success. it took a lot of talking and organization but we finally did it & i think it’s one of the smartest & best things we’ve done.
i’d urge every couple to get it together & be on the same page when it comes to the ‘ol benjamins because otherwise it has the potential to be come a big issue.
:: on food ::
it’s great to watch what you eat, to make healthy choices, and of course to consume lots fruits+veg. but it’s also crucial to not deprive yourself. if you avoid your favorite foods, let yourself get too hungry, and never give in to a tasty treat you are much more likely to end up overindulging on the wrong foods later. including certain foods in your diet rather than depriving yourself of them will help you stick to your healthy eating, encourage less junk food consumption, and most importantly, will keep you sane+happy.
:: on baby names ::
knowing a few couples who are expecting, i just had to pass this on. i only hope more people come to adopt this attitude in regard naming to a child after a family member or dear friend. Swistle is spot on when she says that “No one may demand a namesake be used, or complain if it isn’t. Namesakes are honors not be expected, but rather to be received with happy, teary-eyed surprise.” – could not have said it better myself.
:: on sex ::
…especially teen sex… some people continue to say that the safest sex is abstinence. in fact, it’s a common catch-phrase used to sex educations + media alike. however, i’m here to set the record straight. abstinence means to not engage in sex. thus, no sex = no sex, not safe sex. and abstinence is a choice…not a birth control method!
:: on college ::
both mr.c + i graduated from college and found jobs… not in our fields. (well, that’s only partially true since i was a psych major and you can apply that to basically anything – but you get what i mean!) anyway, he is working in a warehouse and i’m working at a comedy theatre.
i really enjoy my job, but lately i’ve been getting tired of people looking at me like “wha?” when they ask what my degree is + then find out what i do for work. ….”oh, so you’re not using your degree?”… the expression on their face is “whatta waste”.
honestly, i’m using my degree every day, in my job, on this blog, in my personal life and it just sounds depressing when my college degree is referred to as “unused”.
i know i’m not the only one who has experienced this so i’d like to offer you a new word, slightly better, more positive twist, and it is “unprofitable”. yep, after reading this article, i’m so down with this switch! no need to feel bad anymore because your degree isn’t “unused”; nope, it is now simply “unprofitable” at the moment. i dunno about you, but i definitely like that sound of that.
:: on thunderstorms ::
they make me feel cozy + refreshed + safe + alive all at the same time. they make me slow down and appreciate the moment. i love falling asleep to the sound of rain on the window; tis a beautiful thing. and the loud crackle and boom of thunder, well, it a simple reminder that there really are bigger things out there in this world than just little you+ your little life, and i think that’s pretty darn cool. perspective people, that’s where it’s at!
so, what are your :: thoughts :: today?